If someone asked you what you thought of yourself, what would your response be? If thinking about that makes you uncomfortable, I’ll tell you a secret: more people than you think have a negative self-image, so you are not alone. The average person doesn’t like talking about himself or herself. Here’s the good news: this image of yourself is in your control. And there are plenty of things you can do to boost it.
Other questions to ask yourself are: What are some qualities in other people that you admire? What are some things you could do to make yourself proud? Use these to guide your actions and focus on becoming a better you.
Unfortunately, this isn’t something that automatically changes when you hit a certain age, or when you lose a certain amount of weight, and so on. A positive self-image is something YOU have to work hard towards in order to achieve.
You might ask, how do I do that? To start, if you focus on one aspect that you see negatively, you are not being fair to yourself. For example, if you base your self-worth on your grades in school, and you are disappointed in your current grades, you might have a negative view of yourself all around. No one is perfect. So, don’t forget to take into account the parts of yourself that you like! It sounds silly, but try writing down a few positive qualities of yourself. The results may surprise you! (For example: great teeth, kind to others, fashionable, muscular, good at writing, etc.)
If it is your physical appearance you’re unhappy with, you can start going to the gym, change your hairstyle, wear different clothes, pierce your nose, or make other changes in order to look the way you want.
Self-image is exactly how it sounds, it’s how YOU would like to see yourself and no-one else. Change can be scary, but making positive changes in your life is the first step to a positive self-image. Even the smallest changes can have the biggest impacts!
This is where your mindset comes in. Think about how you want to better yourself, and start making positive changes in your life that will set you in that direction. Zig Ziglar, salesman and motivational speaker, believed that “positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” And he’s right. It sounds cliche, but a negative attitude won’t get you anywhere. Everything you do, do with a little bit of positivity. Try new things, find what you’re passionate about, and don’t take yourself so seriously. When you build upon your strengths, it will help you build your confidence.
Ziglar also said, “if you don’t see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.” If you EXPECT yourself to fail, then you ARE going to fail! Buy yourself a pen that says, “YES YOU CAN”. Chances are, you’re not giving yourself enough credit. What is your definition of success? Wake up in the morning and remind yourself of how capable you are of achieving that success. It won’t magically solve all of your problems, but it will put you in a much better place if you start your day knowing you can handle what’s on your plate. Remember who you are and always strive for excellence. No matter your destination, or how you get there, I guarantee a positive self-image will follow.